Japan is a very formal society with very polite people, greeting someone for the first time is often like a formal ritual with a strict script followed especially with business dealings.

Names:

Most Japanese people are addressed by their surname and the title of san is attached to the name. For example if you were Mr Jones in a western country you would be Jones-san and Mrs Smith would be Smith-san, the extension is the same for both sexes (it can be used for other things like animals too). A Japanese example is Iron Chef Chen Kenichi who is the son of Chen Kenmin, he often refered to on the show as Chen-san. Kun is also used in place of san when adults refer to younger males. People with respected status and this can include the elderly or a politician or even a teacher may get the Sensei extension so Mr Brown would be Brown-Sensei. Often famous Japanese people will revert their name to a western format one example is Yoko Ono.

Bowing - See our bowing page

Business Cards

Business cards or Meishi are a very important commodity in Japan and must be treated with utmost respect. When being offered a business card you should take with two hands and study the card for a few seconds. Do not pop it in your pocket or wallet until after the meeting- place it in front of you and never write a phone number or any other information on it. It is also customary to bow when passing and receiving the business card.

Seating Order

If you are meeting with people at a table it is important that the honored guest sits on the kamiza or honored seat. It is usually located farthest from the entrance. The host or least important person usually sits nearer to the entrance. Probably the most politest thing to do is wait until you are directed to your position by the host of the meeting or dinner.

Gift Giving

If you are visiting someone's house it is very good manners to take a present called a Temiyage. Ideas might include some sweets, sake or a bottle of wine but the best idea for foreigners is take something from your home land. The Japanese just love stuffed toys a plush native animal of your home country would be a perfect gift and much appreciated, if you plan to visit someone, pick one up before you leave. The Japanese love wrapping so fine wrapping and beautiful ribbons add value to the gift.